It’s hard to know what’s worse, Snakes on a Plane or Children on a Plane (my money is on the children). For parents, there is nothing more anxiety producing then boarding a plane with your kids. You feel the tension from other passengers as they pray not to be sitting anywhere near your family. Often, your worst nightmare comes true and the screaming begins shortly after take off and continues until the plane touches down.

Recently, a Massachusetts family was escorted off of a plane when they couldn’t get their child in her seat quickly enough before take-off. How humiliating! Parents are being judged not only for the kids’ behavior but the methods they use to get their kids under control. Unfortunately, a swift swat on the bottom or threats to take toys away may not be well received by onlookers.

One of the first things I would suggest is to change our perspective on what it means to have a “successful” flight. If parents are expecting their kids to sit quietly and flip-through the in-flight magazine for two and a half hours, they will be disappointed. More than likely, kids are going to be restless and whiney during some portions of the flight. However, preparation before you board the plane will result in a more bearable in-air experience. Some steps include:

1. Schedule flights during nap time
2. Plan Activities such as coloring books or portable DVDs
3. Bring Snacks and blankets from home
4. Move Around whenever possible

When the seat belt is not illuminated, use that time to walk the aisles or take trips to the bathroom. The biggest challenge for kids is having to sit in one location for long periods of time. Periodically walking around the plane will not be too disruptive – unless you’re blocking the beverage cart.

Another clever idea involves using a sticker chart to track their progress during the flight. For example, every 30 minutes, your child can select a sticker to place on a rewards chart. If the chart is full by the end of the flight, your child gets treated to a special surprise at landing.

I love that idea, but wish something like that could be created for moms. Maybe every 30 minutes that you keep from losing it, you can be rewarded a cocktail. By the time you land, you’ll be relaxed enough to handle your spastic children and your husband at baggage claim.