Changing careers is difficult. Now I’m not talking about changing jobs within your established field. I’m talking about doing something completely different – starting over in a totally new profession. I’m in my late 30’s and in a position of having to prove myself. Without question, this journey has not been without sacrifice.

However, this job has provided some unexpected benefits. It’s fun being a part of team rather than leading a team. It’s exciting to be in a new environment. Although there are politics in every job – at least it’s NEW politics with NEW issues and NEW people. It’s exhilarating (albeit terrifying) being on live television and talking about issues that you care about. However, bottom line, the most profound benefit of this job is the opportunity to focus, really focus on my kids.

You see, the nature of what I do as a parenting contributor involves paying attention to my children. I am constantly experimenting with new content within my built-in lab at home. Like a scientist, my kids serve as little mice that I observe in their natural environment. They supply me with the inspiration for everything I do. This is dramatically different from my previous vocation. The nature of my job combined with the nature of my personality kept me always distracted and, in many ways, emotionally unavailable to my children. This one unexpected benefit has made the entire process worthwhile.

Last night, I found myself at the park with my youngest. We sat in the sand pile making rivers out of sandy grooves and boats out of tiny leaves. I listened intently to his words, paying attention to this moment knowing that I would likely be writing about it. I was present and not preoccupied with the worries of tomorrow. Yes, changing jobs has been difficult. However, the rewards have already outweighed the sacrifices and I will never regret facing my fears and making a change.

Even so, for people contemplating a career change, I can say that it is not for the faint of heart. My grandmother use to say, “Growing old ain’t for sissies!” The same can be applied for changing careers. No sissies need apply. It’s tough and you have to be prepared for the highs and lows that always accompany change. However, if you simply can’t ignore that still small voice that is urging you to go for the dream, I would encourage you to consider these steps.

Self Reflection
If you feel at a cross-road, before looking at the classifieds, look within yourself. Do some self-reflection and consider your interests and your skill levels. This will help you develop a clear picture of what you see yourself doing.

Make a Plan
Next, I would suggest making a plan. This does not need to be a full-blown business plan with a table of contents. Simply write down your goals and some immediate steps you can take to start pursuing your dream. This allows your idea to become more concrete and gives you perspective on the journey ahead. This method will also serve as a great tool for battling the fear that will inevitably try to block your efforts.

Talk About It
I would suggest talking about it. Talk to friends and friends of friends. Yikes! I know this is intimidating. What if people laugh at me? What if they ask me questions that I don’t know the answer? In my own experience, I found that by talking about it, I was able to apply the feedback to further refining and shaping my dream. Be careful when talking to family members. They may punch holes in your idea simply because the change could affect them – and change is scary for everyone.

Find a Mentor
If at all possible, identify a mentor that can help you work through some of the rough spots along the way. If you can find a mentor who is also well-connected and assist you with networking – even better. However, what you need most is a friend you can trust who has your interests at heart.

There have been times when I have questioned my decision and the thought process behind it. However, those moments are fleeting when I get to spend time talking with (rather than talking to) and listening, really listening to my children. I hope these steps will assist you in making your dream a reality. It won’t be easy, and it won’t always be fun. But I promise you that being in the place of your most potential will usher in many benefits – even those that are unexpected.