Gone are the days where meditation is reserved for new-age junkies that sit on a mountain top crossed legged chanting “Om”. Meditation has become more main stream and millions of people are benefiting from meditation’s therapeutic effects. But for moms who are juggling everything from soccer practices to conference calls, finding time to take a breather seems impossible. After all, where does meditation fit on the to-do list?
According to Miranda Davis, a Yoga and Meditation Master Trainer, meditation should become a part of a daily routine. “Meditation can benefit parents by taking us out of the busyness of life,” she says. “It requires us to go within and renew our minds and bodies.” Davis goes on to say, “Consider meditation as a method for daily renewal. It is an excellent tool for dealing with the everyday stress of parenting.” But how does a frazzled parent begin? Here are a few tips:
Find the Time
Finding the time to take a shower seems like a luxury let alone carving out time for meditation. However, the good news is that meditation does not require two hours apart from civilization. Five to ten minutes of un-interrupted space, free from children, spouses, pets and phones is enough to restore balance and reduce stress. Although any time will do, many experts suggest that the best time to meditate is within the hour-in-a-half before dawn or before dusk (http://momstoday.com/resources/articles/meditation.htm). If you’re worried that your body will calm right down into an unplanned slumber, Davis says “you may choose to set a timer which can help you stay on schedule.”
Setting the Stage
It just takes a little corner – a small space where you are away from distractions. An exercise mat and a few pillows will provide additional comfort. It is also recommended that you use lighting to assist in the process. Davis says, “We want to create a mood by lighting candles, playing soothing music, and using aromatherapy. This will make the space more conducive for relaxation.”
Take a Breather
There is really very little mystery about meditation. It simply begins with breathing. “When we begin meditation, we start with the breath as it is said to be the key in releasing the distractions of the mind,” says Davis. You want to lengthen the breath, slow and rhythmic– inhaling for four counts and exhaling for four counts. Breathing helps clear the mind of daily stresses. According to Davis, meditation can begin and end with controlled breathing. “For some that may be all that time will allow. You can certainly find the time to breathe deeply and clear the mind of the day’s stresses.”
Affirm and Focus
Other ways to enhance your meditation include focus and affirmations. By focusing on an object – a candle, a picture, or some sort of trinket – the image can be replicated in the mind after the eyes are closed. By releasing that image, you are in a meditative space. In addition, using positive affirmations can further enhance the experience. “Anything that is uplifting and encouraging can be used. This is basic and easy to follow. Repeating silently, ‘I am relaxed, I am calm.’ Repeating as necessary until this thought becomes a feeling.” That feeling can help sustain your sanity as you battle the details of life.
For moms, life is not really a balancing act – it’s more of a juggling act. We do our best to keep as many balls in the air before they come crashing down. Meditation offers an opportunity to restore internal balance and better equips us to deal with our daily drama. So find your little corner of the world and spend some time in focused harmony. Your soul will thank you!
